Sunday, January 10, 2010

Quasi-Resolution: Stalk and Kill the Relentless Time-Slurper

Today's "Meaty" post is a bit personal and could be classified as part of a New Year's resolution.

I don't own a television and haven't in over fifteen years. When people ask why, I say that there's so much more to do in life than watch TV.

Sounds lofty, doesn't it? Problem is, the internet munches up my time just as effectively as a television would.

And, like television, it's not that there isn't some fantastic content there--for a writer, the internet may be one of the greatest resources we have. You can learn how the publishing industry works, make contacts and join critique groups, do simple research, and even look up grammar rules.

The problem is knowing where to stop, knowing beyond what point you're wasting your time instead of making an investment in your future. What does Twitter get you, really?

Let me lurch off on a brief tangent. You've probably heard that marijuana isn't addictive, but this is false. THC, the psycho-active ingredient in marijuana, is stored in the body's fat cells. When a person stops using marijuana, their fat cells release the THC gradually, effectively tapering them off the drug so they don't go into withdrawal.

Another indication that THC is addictive--the one that's relevant here--is the fact some people use marijuana compulsively.

I think it's fair to say that, in recent years, I've used the internet compulsively. I wake up, turn on the computer, and check email, blogs, and favourite websites (I can has Lolcats?) I sit down to lunch at my desk and do the same thing. I spend my evenings web-surfing. El Husbando and I joke about how much time we spend in the same room facing different directions because our computers are against opposite walls.

There's so much more to do in life than peruse the internet.

In 2009, I made several attempts to break myself of my internet addiction. First, I installed Leechblock and set limits on the amount of time I spent at certain sites. That didn't work very well after I learned how to turn it off. My personality is such that I get miffed at a machine slapping me away from something I was mentally involved with.

Certain websites I visited regularly were steeped in negativity (is it wrong to detest Perez Hilton when you persist in reading his site?), and I finally decided to give them up. Barring one relapse, I managed to do that.

Web abstinence thus proven to be one of the few effective techniques for me, just before my vacation this past December, I made a new resolution: I would only Twitter, read blogs, and look at my favourite websites once per day.

I could check email as often as I liked, mind you. I could write my blog posts at will. The fun stuff, however? Only once a day.

And since I was chopping out time-wasters, I also forbade myself from playing casual computer games like Minesweeper and Spider Solitaire.

You would think my enforced time away from the internet this December would help me set new habits, but I still find myself wandering toward the computer with the intention to read blogs or play a quick game. I don't think it's wrong for me to classify this as compulsive behaviour. I'm getting better slowly, but I have noted my withdrawal symptoms.

So one of my ever-nebulous resolutions for 2010 is to keep off the sauce, as it were. I'm only allowed to web-surf once a day unless I'm doing research.

Because there's so much more to do in life. Like write books, read books, draw and paint, do chores, talk to all the awesome people I love, go for walks, take up rock climbing again, learn how to make toffee (it was awesome, by the way), teach my orchids to love me once more, enjoy my job, enjoy the weather, etc., etc., etc...

Author website: J. J. DeBenedictis

11 comments:

Josh said...

At the beginning of Nov., I told friends and family I was swearing off computer games for a year. Now, gaming is something I enjoy, and it's something I often think of when I want to relax or get my mind of the serious things in life. However, after putting it out of my life, it's amazed me how much time I have for other things (like writing). All those little things in life, like checking email, browsing webcomics, or playing games add up to so many hours per day, and we don't even realize it. It's habitual, a comfort, and we don't think it's harmless because we don't realize how much it's sucking away the minutes and hours. Honestly, I think our generation is slowly becoming addicted to the constant distractions surrounding us.

jjdebenedictis said...

Josh: I certainly was a noticeable pull whenever I walked by the computer and was feeling a bit bored. I knew I was too used to tapping into the internet, but it was surprise how hard it was too give that up.

writtenwyrdd said...

*waves hand wildly* I am an internet addict.

I agree with you 100% on everything you say here. I lived without a tv for a couple of years inthe 90s and didn't miss it. Got so much more done, creatively speaking. I cancelled my satellite service at one point (no tv without it in my neck of the woods) but had to reinstate it for my mom when she moved in with me. However, I do think the internet is a worse time suck than the tv!

jjdebenedictis said...

Writtenwyrdd: With TV, there's sometimes nothing on (although that's less of a problem with satellite.) With the internet, there's ALWAYS something interesting to be found--you might not know where it is, but it's there.

Kate said...

Bravo, JJ, and good luck!

Maureen said...

Definitely "Bravo JJ" and may 2010 bring you everything you wish for! You're certainly starting it out on a great note and I hope to do the same. This is a great blog and I'm glad you're not cutting back on your internet time here. :)

McKoala said...

Next time you drop by... Let's talk badges, o goblin friend... I'm thinking we might need a few more stages for people to work their way up...

Sarf's Travels. said...

I have a job where I spend all day in front of a computer with the internet there.

On the other hand I go home and play games on the internet. Some would say I was addicted and by those surveys that ask how many hours you spend on the computer, I am.

I play wow as a recreation and with the long nights there isn't much to do int he evening, like my sister I don't have a TV, but do have a DVD player.

Thing I only really play wow when I have nothing better to do (except Friday and Saturday nights), I will send hours reading news. But a favorite author releases a new book all that is dropped to sit down a read for a few hours.

Same with if I buy some new amine :) My other addiction, tempered by the fact it is just so EXPENSIVE here!

I don't think you can say I will cut out something because it is not productive.

To quote somone, I don't know who.
"All things in moderation, including moderation!"

jjdebenedictis said...

Kate: Thank you! I depend upon you to keep me in line, however. ;-)

Maureen: Thanks so much! The blog I can justify as useful to my writing career, but the rest was just providing too many excuses not to write.

McKoala: Goblin fingers are itching to create some new badges...whoops, no. I tell a lie. They're itching to visit Lolcats again.

The badges will distract them nicely, however.

Sarf: I think as long as you feel it enhances your life, rather than getting in the way of you doing other things you want to, then you're good.

With me, I felt like I was web-surfing to kill time, and I had other things to spend that time on. It didn't feel like it was good for me, so I stopped.

Now if I could only stop eating this toffee; it rocks--and is also not good for me.

PS:
- 2 cups brown sugar
- 1 cup butter
- boil them together on medium heat until the mixture reaches 275 F, stirring constantly to prevent burning.
- pour onto a greased cookie sheet (preferably with a rim) and allow to cool. Break into bite-sized pieces to serve.

Sarah Laurenson said...

That's why I took the blogcation. It included unplugging as much as possible when my job is working on a computer. No games. No surfing. No blogs - reading or writing. Lots of e-mail, but it was interesting to watch my inbox get a rest because I wasn't subscribing to comment trails.

So now I'm back reading blogs and sort of back writing mine. I'm surfing and playing games. And I'm almost thinking I need another blogcation. Not sure yet.

Being out of the living room more and away from the TV is helping. It's funny but I had no problem leaving it off and not having cable. Then my wife moved in and had to have cable and a DVR. I watch a lot more TV than I have in a long time. Sans commercials at least.

There's got to be more hours in a day, damn it. Their just hiding them somewhere. :-)

jjdebenedictis said...

Sarah: I find writing my own blog is okay for me. I think what bothers me is spending great quantities of time absorbing things passively. If I'm producing something, I rarely feel like that time was wasted.

Writtenwyrdd also noted that when someone else in the house wants television, it makes it a lot harder to avoid. At least with the internet, there's little chance of getting sucked into whatever has the other person so enthralled.

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